The main arc of the episode is about a teenager who, in a flashback, comes out to his best friend, Jack, and professes his love for him in the school’s locker room.
Jack is straight, though, and he deals with his friend calmly and appropriately. His friend is very upset, but Jack tries to comfort him, saying “What’s the big deal? It’s 2003. ... It’s not that big a thing. My uncle’s gay ... no one cares anymore.” Nevertheless, they drift apart as friends in the following year. At some point that year, the boy also comes out to his mom, who rejects him; the boy commits suicide in the episode’s present day.
Also in the episode, Jack’s gay uncle shows up for Thanksgiving—though his part in the plot revolves around his drinking and general poor life choices, not his gayness.
Did you see the cover story about this ground-breaking episode in Time? Did you hear it debated on radio talk shows? What about all the protests in front of the television stations airing it? Is there a Website called “AfterJack&Bobby.com”? What about the letter campaign to the FCC trying to stop the rerun from airing Sunday at 6 p.m. as many J&B episodes do?
Nah, you didn’t miss it. There weren’t any.
When Ellen DeGeneres kissed another woman—on the lips, with romantic intent, in a non-dream sequence, during prime time on a major network—the societal reverberations were debated for weeks. That was in the fall of 1997.
We’re only seven years later, just seven years, and a scene involving male teen homosexuality that would have been a fire storm then, goes off with little fanfare indeed.
And I am thanksful, both for the episode, which was dramatic and compelling without being maudlin or campy, as well as for the lack of drama around its airing, which is as it should be.
Because, as Jack said, it’s 2003 and no one cares any more—but I do have one last thought—it should be noted this was aired during sweeps.
“I find myself thinking of a checklist Wozniak wrote a few years ago describing how to become a genius. His advice was straightforward yet strangely terrible: You must clarify your goals, gain knowledge through spaced repetition, preserve health, work steadily, minimize stress, refuse interruption, and never resist sleep when tired. This should lead to radically improved intelligence and creativity. The only cost: turning your back on every convention of social life.”
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream.”
While I am happy that it should be no big deal in 2003, and while I also shouldn't comment without having seen the episode, I wanted to note that an episode of Northern Exposure in which a teen girl came out to her best friend (and they even "experimented" with kissing, aired prior to the (in)famous "Ellen" episode with very little fanfare. My opinion? The kid who came out in both episodes was ultimately rejected, the kid who rejected them returned to a loving family who was greatful their child was not gay, and (in this case) the gay kid committed suicide. And, while seemingly not to have anything to do with his gayness, the fact that the uncle was portrayed as a drunk with other problems makes him more "real" to the gay-hating public who would normally be in protest of such a show. So, while every episode is important, and I am happy these issues are addressed more frequently, there is also a big content difference between these shows, and that, too, may indicate the difference in the public's reception. In fact, after 7+ years, in some ways (from your description of the episode), I'm almost sad to say how little things have changed.
Posted by Debbie at 10:14 pm on Dec. 5, 2004
If there has been no reaction to the "gay episode" where has the program J&B;gone to? We see it via cable from WPIX in NYC on Wednesday evenings and no episode has been aired since that one. No one seems able to say what's going on with the series. Any answers? It's a wonderful show: the boys and their mother (the nutty professor) are amazingly fine actors.
Posted by Michael N. Stanton at 3:07 pm on Dec. 12, 2004
I don't know why it hasn't aired on your particular station, except that schedules do become disrupted in and around sweeps, and sometimes reruns are aired after sweeps if production has been delayed.
That said, there has been one more episode broadcast since then -- the one where Jack and Missy may (or may not, I'm not going to spoil it for you) have sex for the first time.
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